Betrayal What do we mean?

 
What happens when we feel betrayed? Betrayal is not an emotion.   It is an event or a series of events. This event and feelings of betrayal encompasses a group of emotions.  Here are the ones I have felt, anger, grief, fear and love.  Do some betrayals feel like a path well-worn from past experiences?  Are the emotions the same?  Are they more or less intense?  
 
Now it is time to hit pause.  Let yourself meditate for a few minutes as to how you are feeling.
Allow yourself to flood your mind with feelings.  What are your feelings?
Allow yourself to flood your mind with memories.  What are your memories?  If you have many, ask yourself which one do I want to focus on.   It is a simple practice, and take each of them one at or time or group them together if there is a common theme.
 
Pausing 
 
For me the opposite of betrayal is a promise.   Many cultures guide us to promise in future actions. Is a promise in the future all that realistic?  Life happens, people change, circumstances alter our reality perception.  
 
So now a person has to deal with the expectation of their idea promise, recognizing they have failed in their promise, or make excuses for their failed promise action AND deal with their present life circumstance.  As we all know this takes a huge amount of energy.  
Some cultural lessons teach us to believe that living in the now is the best mentally healthy way of life.  If this is so why do we even consider the need to make promises? 
 
Pausing
 
 Are promises and vows the same as a commitment?   Can a person commitment to someone or something without making a verbal promise?