FindingThe True Source of Bitterness

TipTop Tuesday, my weekly video series, is today is written. The topic today is bitterness. It is a logical theme after last week's topic about resentment. Bitterness is a little more hidden because the cause is not so obvious. What do I mean by that? We all have hopes, dreams, and beliefs about the rules of living life. Bitterness occurs when we are wounded but we do not address the wound. Thus, the starting point of the initial wound might seem insignificant but it rocks your core belief about yourself. The healing happens when we find the first cut into our well being. When we find the memory we have to open it to the light to be cleaned and healed. We all have examples of seemingly isolating interactions about something. Often, it is a quick non-repeat situation that seems to be a surface cut and life is busy and we go on. The truth is the cut went really deep because it goes against our life's core values and beliefs. It shakes us to the core. Reading different articles about bitterness I felt that many people believed that bitterness consumed all aspects of a person daily life. I disagree with that. Rather, it is a continuum of feelings not a person consumed by bitterness or all joy. We have lots of emotions. I also wonder if our culture views depression and bitterness in the same category. They are different.
Enough said we all know that instinctively.
So my Tip this week is to find something you are bitter about and follow that cord or string to the root cause. Once there really examine your feelings. In my experience it is a childhood belief that was challenged and you felt confused, rejected and shamed. You judge and shame yourself by denying your "immature reaction". The immature is the key, it is a childhood hurt and children require lots of nurturing. So, give yourself lots of love and comfort. It is now easier to look at it from the other person's or people's point of view.
This weekly tip was given to me by one of my massage clients. It really resonated with my soul. She basically said: Letting go of bitterness is an inside job and you need to really examine your memory and also provide a safe space of nurturing and love for yourself.
Have A Dazzle of A Day!!
Anne Marie ​
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